9 quotes to make you think.

Ready for the lessons.

I was ready for the lessons and learnings this would teach and instil in me. I was ready for the impermanence of what this could and would be.

I knew it would be hard before it even started. And boy, did it turn out harder than anticipated.

But I embraced the (unknown) purpose of it all and carry the reinforced lessons forward, staying humble in my learnings.

Below, you will read quotes that are worth thinking about for the relationships in your life and with yourself.

I hope to reinforce some lessons you will have learned already and maybe give words to dynamics in your life that you may not have been able to express yourself.

At the end of the blog, you will read what I do to help me approach situations that gives me the most peace whether things work out the way I hoped, or not.

Quote #1

People truly project how they feel on the inside.

In the first few weeks of knowing someone, you can really gauge how they feel about themselves.

It’s in the little comments they make about other people in your life, and theirs.

Listening to the way they talk about the relationships in their life will teach you a lot.

This also applies to their self-talk. How do they see themselves? How do they talk about their body? What words do they frequently use to describe their circumstances?

How do they treat their body, what do they feed their mind? Chances are, their life will reflect exactly how they feel about themselves as a result of this.

Quote #2

We all create our own reality based on what we believe about ourselves.

If someone is conditioned enough to believe certain things about themselves and their life e.g. no one cares about them, they’re unworthy or unlovable or things are always too good to be true, they will project these beliefs in the way they speak, act, and feel.

They will not and cannot believe that they are worthy of receiving what is in front of them so they will sabotage by projecting these beliefs into their life and the people around them, which causes self-fulfilling manifestations.

Quote #3

No matter how much someone might want things to change; if they're not at the stage of acceptance, acknowledgment, and accountability, they will continue to manifest past feelings and situations.

Blaming anything external to yourself surrenders your power immediately.

How powerless you will feel if you blame anything that you cannot control.

Of course, there are influences from childhood, past traumas, and past circumstances, but these are not the reasons you act the way you do today and have the life you have today.

Placing blame onto other people or situations (e.g. someone didn’t show enough love, or, bad things keep happening to me), prolongs pain and takes the control out of your hands.

And until you realise you are the only one responsible for how you feel right now, you will continue in a perpetual cycle of pain, grief, suffering, and blame.

Taking accountability of your own emotions gives you the control of your own life.

Quote #4

You cannot make someone see their world differently.

No matter what you see in someone and their world around them; if they choose to see the negative, choose to blame, and therefore, self sabotage, they will never see the potential of what’s in front of them and the reality they could have.

Sometimes it’s easier to let go and let be, than become part of their world that they can only see the negative in.

Quote #5

If someone believes they are unworthy or unlovable, there will not be enough you can do to change that for them.

No matter what you do for someone, if they are in a self-sabotaging space, there will not be a single thing you can do that will ease their discomfort in themselves.

Their dissatisfaction stems from insecurities that only they can heal. Not you, or anything you can do for them.

Quote #6

When someone places their happiness in you and holds you responsible for keeping (or not keeping) them in that place, they become inherently more unhappy.

You can do one thing, but it becomes an avalanche effect.

It doesn’t soothe their unhappiness or insecurity, so they think it must be something else you’re doing or not doing.

And you will end up exhausting yourself and your peace trying to ease something that cannot be eased.

Quote #7

Nothing is worth disturbing your own peace for.

You will realise fairly quickly into any relationship dynamic if it will disrupt your peace.

It’s a choice you will make whether you will persevere and learn from the relationship or listen to your gut from the beginning and make the choice to move on.

Both will be lessons you move forward with.

Quote #8

If someone lacks self-worth, they will (subconsciously or not), self-sabotage situations to affirm their own beliefs about themselves and the way they see the world.

Right before your eyes, you will see reality pan out in the exact way that their fears haunt them.

When someone has deep-rooted fears that they cling on to, the exact act of resisting the fear is the exact reason their fear will manifest itself into reality.

Quote #9

No matter how much someone wants to feel happy and loved, if they don’t love themselves, or see it in themselves, they will never find it elsewhere.

It’s not uncommon to know someone who takes pride in things external to themselves. For example, cars, career, finances and other material things.

And we all know that these things are a temporary filler to a deeper routed sense of lack elsewhere in the psyche.

This is another example of placing happiness in something external to yourself.

If these things perish, where is your happiness now?

Of course finding joy in these things is not wrong, although, when the reason for them is to give you happiness, you will always live with temporary fulfillment but a constant need for more.

Trust that it all happens for you.

It's never easy when things don't work out the way you hoped they would.

It's the attachment to the idea of what could have been that can be the hardest to let go of.

I've found that approaching most situations in life with the concept of impermanence enables me to give the best of me and what I feel is right at the time, and allows me to see the beauty in the things that do and also do not work out.

This philosophy, for me, gives me trust in what the universe presents me and gives me space to learn the lessons I need to in order to move closer to where I am meant to be in life.

A message for you.

Whatever it is you might be going through right now, trust that it is happening for you.

Trust that what you did and the decisions you made, were best for you in the moments that you might reflect on with question.

When you step back and learn, each day, each person you cross paths with, and each decision you make is moving you closer to who you're meant to be and the life you're meant to live.

However, the universe will keep presenting you with the same signs until you learn the lesson.

The moment you start to think you deserve more, is usually the moment that you do.

So trust your instinct, even though it may not be easy.

Every difficult decision now, makes your decisions in the future easier.